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DISCLAIMER: Let me be clear on something. One: I'm not a guy basher & Two: I give my number to people only after I speak to them in person enough to get to know them & want to be accessible. I dont flirt & just throw it out like confetti, ok? Thanks. Also, while this post isnt about dating, it ties into relationships & it's a rant/opinion needed blog. So be honest, feedback is appreciated & needed ASAP!

There's this other guy at work I see nothing but friendship in & we go to the same school like most of the other late teens/early 20s employees do. He seemed ok so I gave him my number earlier this week. Tonight he texts me twice & the CALLS me at 5 minutes to MIDNIGHT! I'm still up but that's besides the point. Late & Early are different to everyone. I'm a total night owl, however, my personal motto is I dont call after 10pm unless the person says it's ok or of course it's an emergency. If I'm not sure, I'll text if it's a cell phone or just ask. I also dont call back right away without a voice message & excessively texting me gets on my LAST nerves because you fill up my box needlessly. Then they get "offended" if I dont answer back right away like I live & die for their calls & messages".

I'm not saying all guys are like this but a good chunk think that when we give them our number, we're being flirty or want something from them other than being friends. I'm shy as a crab (hence my star sign, Cancer) but if I like you, I wont be coy. YOU WILL KNOW!! My question is at what point without walking up to someone & saying "Hi! My name is (insert your name here)! I dont like it when people call after 10, I'm not giving you my number because I want something, I'm being strictly platonic & I have someone else in mind so dont get ideas" or something to that effect?

I'm seriously considering changing my number after recent mishaps with guys at work & calling/texting. At work, a majority of us exchanged numbers at first because since the schedule is accessible to all employees, we can call to work out shift trades. Then from there people because friends & stuff, but now I'm at the point where I want to change my number & only give it to FRIENDS & FAMILY. I mean, I'm still open to friendships & stuff but with the D situation, I dont want any ties to work anymore. The girls I'm ok with having my number but the guys are getting on my nerves. I think it's a Florida thing.

I think from now on if someone needs a shift, I'll tell them to either tape a note to my locker or put it on my time card. ::sigh::

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Nothing like starting off a blog in a serious tone, eh? LOL. My title pretty much sums up everything.

When one of my friends started dating Chris we were 17 & he was 19, just prior to our High School graduation. I'll be blunt, he's cute, good to talk to & very caring. The only bad part is that my friend took him for granted & treated him bad. She took the advice of others & basically threw him to the curb after almost 3 years of going out off & on.

I sided with Chris because after knowing her since we were 11 I knew she was wrong. My friend is the type of person where it's her way or the highway just about. you can say yes to her 9 times straight but the ONE time you say no/lets do something else or whatever...SHE.FLIPS.OUT! Her first serious boyfriend was abusive & she was always spoiled & had an awful temper to the point I stopped being her friend once when we were 15 & being the bleeding heart I am, I took her friendship back. Then when we were 19, I flew back home for a week to visit her & my other friends & I was sleeping over at her house. I was mad the whole trip because everytime we hung out, she brought her other friends around. I mean when we first met it was fine but I literally mean every plan involved them. And they were all in their late 20s so I had nothing in common with them & I didnt know what she had in common with them but I dont judge peoples friends like that. I was angry because I moved out of state with my mom 2 years prior so I never got to spend any time with her. To be honest, most of the trip I spent with her boyfriend. STRICTLY PLATONIC. We mostly talked about our friends & familes and his relationship with my friend. I admit I had a twinge of jealousy because he adored her. In fact if it wasnt for him, I wouldnt be her friend now. After we had a fight during this trip & she all but threw me out her house over a misunderstanding. I didnt owe her an explination as to why I didnt go back to her house after she fought with the friends I mentioned but I tried to tell her I went to sleepover at another friends house so I wouldnt be in the middle of it but she wouldnt listen to me & didnt go back until after I got my stuff out. Then we didnt speak for 6 months & he's the one who got her to apologize & made sure I was ok all those months after. Then a few months later THEY broke up & I was trying to get them back together, but being the selfish idiot she was she didnt even listen to anybody & basically hopped around until she got with the man who is now her husband. The irony is the people who told her to dump him arent even her friends anymore. She stopped speaking to them a few months later too. She goes through people like tissues...

After all that drama, Chris & I realized how much we have in common & like each other. He admitted even during his relationship that he felt we were more right for each other than he & my friend were. I told him out of respect for my friend we shouldnt date. So in between the years we dated & broke up with other people & remain best friends. Now we're both in our early 20s & I feel the attraction is still there & it's very strong. I still feel there's potential for us to date, in fact I want to. Chris isnt much of a hinter. He's flat out TOLD me numerous times he wants to be with me. I mean I dont really talk to her much & she doesnt talk to him at all, she's married & wouldnt have to see him. Chris is so sweet that he would tell me to go see her by myself so things wouldnt be awkward if I did want to hang out with her so I dont see where things would be an issue. I mean I KNOW they'll have to see each other at some point, but it's going on 4 years & I think (& hope, wish, pray. LOL) that we're grown up since then. What do you guys think?